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Truths about sex

The article is part of the explanation of the 6th world from the [psi] book web page, which can be accessed only with code from the book. In this explanation you will find a slightly different view of sexuality and reasons behind problems afflicting modern men today. Definitely worth reading … Let us list a few topics that Eros covers:

  • sexual prejudice, being “modern invention”
  • reasons for erectile dysfunction
  • why are lesbians more socially acceptable than gay men
  • why can’t you reach orgasm
  • what are the reasons behind the “unnatural” sexual behavior
  • problems of premature ejaculation the secret of the “great lovers”
  • why certain people desire getting the perfect body
  • why some people have a constant need for sex
  • why is sexual intercourse with the same sex natural
  • what is the charm of group showering after sports

In the end you will most likely realize, that there are even greater pleasures in sex, than you have known until now… only if you won’t get scared of the truth.


In the sixth world [psi] reveals to us that one of the key problems and one of the important reasons for non-acceptance in today’s society is the distorted notion about the nature of our sexuality. What you read below may seem unfamiliar and unusual to you; you may find it repulsive and will reject the connections and explanations provided. But the naked truth is what guides this book and the naked truth doesn’t pay attention to what we want and are willing to accept. Anyone who follows the truth also doesn’t take into consideration what we’ve blindly accepted as the reality of one of our minds who made us believe that in order to prevent another mind from gaining power and influence.

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Ever since humankind passed from primeval society into modern civilization, it’s been dealing with one of the minds’ struggle for power. This way our views and values also keep changing—from one extreme to the other. What all the regimes of individual minds have in common is that they all try to erase all the memories of the past periods, when one of the other two minds ruled society. And so life always proceeds in the conviction that our current values and view of the truth are eternal and universal laws of nature, and that all the rest was the backwardness and blindness of an individual society. This can even go so far that we keep falsifying history and presenting interpersonal relations, thinking, and values through the prism of today’s truth. But this isn’t a planned, conscious act, as one might expect, but involves a completely natural law of the mind that climbs to power in society. The fact is also that none of the minds can see the truth differently than according to his own way of thinking, but he can accept that his truth may not be the only one or the right one.

Our society has Reason’s way of thinking, Sexuality is ruled by Emotion

Reason’s way of thinking—typical of the time we live in—roots out everything that undermines his rule and predominance in society. Of all the mechanisms with which the other two minds rule society, Reason is most afraid of Emotion’s sexualpower, and only after that the power of Instinct’s fear. (The source of Reason’s power is concealed in understanding and science).

Sexuality is ruled by Emotion, the primary mind of all our desires, including lust. Because sexuality is one of Emotion’s strongest motives, it also became the main source of his power; a source with which he could dominate the other two minds in the past.

In the past, both Reason and Instinct have found it difficult to fight against sexuality, which is an extremely forceful power mechanism, and so there was no other way out for them except to nip it the bud and reduce its significance in society. The more society accepts rules that suppress sexuality, the weaker Emotion’s power is. When the concept of sexuality is turned upside down in society, Emotion is left almost without any power because he has to fight against his own severe non-acceptance, which keeps him from predominating.

Here are only a few perspectives on sexuality typical of modern society that Reason imprinted into our consciousness in cooperation with Instinct:

Giving oneself up to sexual pleasures is forbidden. It’s indecent to talk about sex. Hinting at sex is indecent. Extramarital sex isn’t decent. Sex before marriage isn’t decent. Nudity and displaying one’s sex organs (private parts) is indecent. Having sex with different sex partners is immoral. Homosexuality is abnormal. Paid sex is immoral. Having sex with a minor (and sometimes even sex between minors) is forbidden and the age limit defining when a person comes of age is considerably above the age when a person becomes sexually mature. Sex among the elderly is inappropriate. Sex in public is offensive, indecent, and prohibited. Hinting at sex and using sex in advertising and the media is controversial and offensive. Only sex in marriage is acceptable. Anal, oral, and other forms of sexual activity that don’t lead to pregnancy are indecent. Masturbation is shameful. Any form of sexual satisfaction that doesn’t serve reproduction is immoral and unethical. Any display of sexuality and writing about it that doesn’t serve science is pornography.

None of the generally accepted social notions about sexuality above agree with Emotion’s way of thinking. But, as stated above, sexuality is in Emotion’s domain, these prejudices lead to suppressed sexuality in modern society, and this literally forces people to practice unnatural and often abnormal sexual activities. This results in numerous problems, personal distress, personality disorders, and increasing non-acceptance in society.

Only a few people are aware of the fact that their way of understanding sexuality isn’t normal for a human being. This is also because we don’t have insight into how sexuality is understood in other worlds. Every world conceives of sexuality in its own way and believes that other worlds also have a similar conception. But, just as our worlds differ from one another, our notions about sexuality also differ, and what may mean a great deal to someone can be completely unimportant to another. Any form of forced, distorted notions about sexuality can cause Emotion to suppress his nature, which can ultimately lead to unnatural sexual behavior. Sexual problems such as the loss of sexual desire, erectile dysfunction, inability to have an orgasm, premature ejaculation, numerous forms of sex addictions, and other problems are only some of the consequences. Those who don’t have any obvious sexual problems can develop unnatural sexual behavior, but they’ve found more or less successful ways of dealing with their concept of sex that they can use to replace the sex mechanisms natural for Emotion.

However, some people have separated Emotion’s notions about sexuality from having sex and converted them into activities that at first glance don’t seem to have any connection with sexuality. This connection often only becomes obvious when they fail in this area, which also ruins their sex life.

Primal nature of sexuality

In order to understand the primal nature of sexuality, one must understand the nature of Emotion—the mind that rules sexuality. Emotion’s motto in sexuality is the desire for pleasure, or lust. (Here pleasure refers to the sensation in one’s genitals that intensifies and grows into climax during sex). Even though this sounds completely simple and logical, you may soon realize that your sexuality isn’t motivated by this sensation at all, but by something completely different. The reason for the difference is that everyone refers to pleasure as something that helps him reach a sexual climax in his own world. In modern society, this natural motive in sexuality has been replaced by a series of motives, among which the assertion of various stage sets predominates. So, for many people who don’t accept themselves, the basic motive in their sexuality is to assert themselves among their peers, to assert their sexual attractiveness, their success, and ability, or to substitute for a series of other things that they may wish to accomplish in life, but have failed to. Because of this, the degree of pleasure in sex has been severely reduced, and even completely neutralized with some people; nonetheless, such people feel the strongest urge to have frequent sex with as many partners as possible. But they aren’t aware of this in their own worlds because everyone knows something he can call desire and sexual pleasure. Only those who get to know natural, unspoiled sex mechanisms can establish a comparison between various ways of experiencing sexuality. Whoever lives to experience this often asks himself how he could ever have experienced what he’d been doing before as sexuality.

So the question arises of whether our way of understanding pleasure really involves Emotion’s simple primal sensation or a complex combination of learned notions, in which this sensation is present, but long lost somewhere in the house of our psyche. In order for Emotion to reach this primal pleasure, he has to be completely relaxed; this means that Reason and Instinct can’t play any role in having sex (this applies to everyone, including those ruled by Reason and/or Instinct). Most people would say here that they’re (usually) completely relaxed when they’re having sex, but the frequency of this answer is also connected with a loss of a tangible comparison with other worlds. What we comprehend as being relaxed in our world may as well be merely the highest level of relaxation we can achieve; but this doesn’t mean that we’ve even come close to being completely relaxed.

You’ll most easily find an answer to the question of how inseparably our minds are connected with our unnatural notions about sexuality if you reply honestly to the following questions:

Do you ever plan your sexual intercourse? Do you ever assume that it will happen, and several minutes even before the first hint at sexual intercourse? Have you ever wondered before or during sexual intercourse how attractive you are to your sex partner? Have you made any preparations for sexual intercourse—put on special clothes or taken a shower? Do you work out in order to make a better impression on potential sex partners and increase your chances with them? Have you picked out special underwear or other accessories for intercourse? Have you taken a condom with you on a date? Have you had any second thoughts or worried immediately before or during intercourse about sexually transmitted diseases or becoming pregnant? Have you ever hidden part of your body from your partner during sexual intercourse? Have you ever made sure your partner noticed a specific part of your body before intercourse? Have you ever been sexually attracted to someone and didn’t know how or dare to clearly show that to him or her?

Only if your answer was a clear no to all of these questions does this indicate that Emotion rules your sexuality. But if you said yes to at least one of the questions, this is a sign that Instinct and/or Reason also most likely interferes with your sex life. Emotion doesn’t plan, but merely feels a desire and follows it. Doing it, he keeps improvising in order to fulfill his desire. He doesn’t wonder about the consequences and has no second thoughts. The inclusion of Instinct and Reason into our sex life is the result of the implanted unnatural notions about sexuality discussed above.

Because Emotion is the leading mind of a larger number of men than women, today’s men have more and greater sex problems than women; women have different problems. One of the most frequent problems that today’s men have is that they redirect Emotion’s natural concept of sexuality. This means that in a psychological sense they no longer have sex with their partners, but with themselves instead. If you’re a man and have started laughing just now, you may soon stop because this is most probably one of your problems too. Today this distorted form of sexuality can be observed in the majority of men.

The basis of Emotion’s natural method of having sex is “You’re my pleasure.”

According to this concept, a person takes pleasure in what his partner offers him (both physically and psychologically). But in the majority of men this method turns into: “I’m your pleasure.” According to this concept, a person only takes pleasure in the idea of satisfying his partner. Even though both cases involve pleasure, the difference between them is extremely great and the person’s partner can sense this even more than he himself.

It’s true that people can learn how to do many things better and improve them with practice, but those who have sex using the wrong (i.e., second) method will never sexually satisfy their partner to the extent that those who have sex using the right (i.e., first) method can even with considerably less effort. Having sex the right way implies not only a psychological difference, but also a completely different method of having sex. Those who have sex in this way experience different feelings, behave and even move differently while having sex, touch their partner and kiss him differently, and give away a series of other unperceivable body signs that bring their partner to ecstasy. Even the penile erection differs according to whether it’s provoked by Emotion or Reason. Reason can also interfere with this activity, as with moving other parts of the body, and triggers the erection. Compared to Emotion’s erection, erection caused by Reason is characterized by a firmer swelling of the root of the penis, in which the muscles above the perineum also take part (these muscles can also be voluntarily moved). Emotion’s erection is characterized by spontaneous erection, which is caused by the mere desire to feel pleasure, or lust. This is characterized by a more intense swelling of the head of the penis.

An important difference between both sex methods can also be found in the feeling of satisfaction after reaching an orgasm. With the first, the “You’re my pleasure” method, the partner’s satisfaction is greater and longer than with the “I’m your pleasure” method. And so those who practice the second method feel a more frequent urge to have sex because it doesn’t bring them the desired psychological satisfaction and so the need to have sex appears again and again. Therefore such a person can also more frequently change his sex partners because he looks for satisfaction in vain; he doesn’t get it with sex, even though it feels like he does for a short while after each orgasm.

Partners experience and sense an extremely great difference between the first and second method of having sex, but they often doesn’t know how to define or explain it. The most frequently observed difference is that even short and poorly performed sex following the first method is much more intense for the partner, and the resulting satisfaction is also longer than with the second method. Regardless of the attention and effort a person invests in intercourse, the ones who have sex following the first method will be recognized as passionate lovers, and those practicing the second method as cold, self-absorbed fucking machines.

Why some people radiates sexual attraction?

People often say that someone radiates sexual attraction, even though there’s really nothing about them that would make them more attractive by other people’s standards. Some people have apparently managed to preserve or develop Emotion’s natural, primal form of sexuality even in modern times, and they radiate this even before they speak to you or establish contact with you. This is called sexual attraction and such people all have sex following the first method, without exception.

In the complicated world of sexual notions it isn’t easy to determine what method we actually use to have sex. One of the signs that someone is practicing the wrong method is the fact that sexual intercourse is a big event for them, that they have to prepare for it or even plan it. All of this isn’t part of Emotion’s way of having sex. Those who have sex according to the wrong (second) method can notice that the degree of pleasure in sex is closely connected with their current concept of themselves. If at a given moment such a person is extremely happy with himself, this will also be positively reflected in the pleasure he feels during sex. But if such a person is dissatisfied with himself (for example, a person isn’t happy with his body, weight, or signs of old age), this will also have a negative effect on how he senses pleasure during sex. With people who have sex using the right (first) method, ideas about themselves play a negligible role in how they experience sexual pleasure.

The wrong method of having sex – “I’m your pleasure”

If someone likes to boast in front of his friends that he managed to have sex with a specific person, especially if this person arouses desire among his friends, this can be a sign that he has sex using the second, “I’m your pleasure,” method. Those who like to boast about their sexual achievements and often tell how they do it to a group of friends almost certainly have sex using the wrong method. But there are also differences in what we think attracts, arouses, and sexually satisfies our partner. If you think this is you or perhaps your shapely body, the way you approach your partner, your fitness, or even how well endowed you are, you’re very likely among those who have sex the wrong way.

People don’t usually wonder about their concept of sexuality and so we don’t even think that there are also concepts that differ from our own. We aren’t aware how these concepts develop and we don’t think about what influences them. This way every world spontaneously composes its own concept of sexuality without knowing where this will lead it and what kind of problems this may be connected with some day. This is why it’s extremely difficult to determine one’s personal sexual characteristics and the basic method we use to have sex.

Many people believe that they can learn the right method of Emotion’s sexuality and it’s true that they can get better through education, improvement, and imitation, but there are so many differences between these two methods that we couldn’t even list all of them here, let alone imitate them. But it’s possible to change one’s method of having sex—this requires Emotion’s self-acceptance and the path to it leads through changing unnatural, forced notions about sexuality.

It’s not easy to find an answer to why most men and women ruled by Emotion change their psychological way of having sex. The reason for this could also be found in the difference between Filito’s world and modern worlds. A careful reader will notice that in Filito’s world everyone can do it with any partner, regardless of their sex. But only a few will realize that, despite the obvious hints at homosexual relations, there aren’t any homosexuals in Filito’s world. This seeming discrepancy can be ascribed to the modern way of viewing sexuality that doesn’t match natural human sexual behavior.


With regard to sexuality, Emotion follows pleasure rather than learned notions about sexuality. Just like anyone can experience sexual pleasure in masturbation, Emotion can also easily experience it by having sex with a partner of the same gender. Many people believe that homosexuality is an inborn orientation, but that’s not true for Emotion. It’s difficult to imagine today that this way of experiencing sexuality has been rooted out because it’s been considered a socially inacceptable form of sexual behavior for several centuries. But, in fact, homosexuality is unacceptable only to Instinct and Reason because in the past Emotion’s sexuality was the toughest nut for them to crack in assuming power. So Instinct and Reason developed the need to root out any type of sexuality as effectively as possible that enables Emotion to accept himself and thus also give him power. This is also confirmed by numerous facts. One of these is that even until very recently (in our recent past) homosexual relations were considered a natural and socially acceptable form of having sex in nearly all cultures. Since then people haven’t genetically changed to the extent that would suddenly make sexual orientation innate. An even more frequent detail is the often overlooked anatomical compatibility of our bodies—they’re completely adapted to homosexuality as well and the ability to feel pleasure in this type of sexual activity.

How is it then possible that there isn’t even one homosexual in Filito’s world?

Homosexuality is the result of modern society and probably didn’t even exist in primeval society. But how and why did it develop?

Those who understand Emotion’s nature will notice that his desire is strongly connected with the unattainableness of his desires. So what we desire the least is what is most available to us at all times—our family members: mother, father, brothers, and sisters with whom we live together in the primeval world from our birth until maturity. So the desire to have sex with our close relatives only occurs exceptionally in practice, when there aren’t other options and opportunities.

Somewhat more unattainable are friends and companions; in the case of hunters, these are the most admired and successful hunters. But because these are also ruled by Emotion, they can be sexually attainable in Filito’s world and only represent a minor object of desire to Emotion; but this desire is still strong enough for Emotion to enjoy having sex with them.

What Emotion desires the most are partners who are sexually most difficult to attain—girls ruled by Instinct. This mind is cautious, reserved, and a little timid by nature, and this is what arouses the greatest sexual desire in Emotions (i.e., hunters).

The men who don’t take part in the hunt stay in the camp. They aren’t ruled by Emotion and so their desire is directed more to hunters, who are more difficult to attain, than to women. Despite this orientation, these members of the society can also completely equally enjoy having sex with partners of the opposite gender. These men are especially attracted by women with a typically male character—the he-women, who are also ruled by Emotion. These, too, are much more attracted by men with Instinct and/or Reason as the predominant mind than hunters—that is, the men who stay in the camp.

Finally, in Filito’s world there are also a large number of couples that have found true love. They only yearn for the partner they’ve selected and so they became unattainable to others.

If we compose a primeval society like this, we get a complete natural balance, in which everything has its own sense and meaning. Without artificial rules, renouncement, suppressed desires, and planned abstinence, human nature is completely adapted to a perfect social structure.

If we transfer this natural operation of our minds to modern society, we can see that everything’s turned upside down in our world. Homosexuality is among the most shameful and sometimes even forbidden and ridiculed forms of sexuality. Precisely because of this, exactly the opposite effect is typical of modern society because this form of sexuality is becoming more unattainable to Emotion than others. Someone growing up in today’s world who, among his other desires, also perceives this natural but insignificant desire for same-sex partners comes up against severe condemnation, denial, and even scorn. It often happens that, because of this, such a person is ashamed of his desire, and hides and denies it. The consequence of this is that, because of suppressing this desire, it can grow to surpass all other desires. This is how it occurs that such a person can no longer feel pleasure with any other form of sexual intercourse; today this is known as homosexuality.

Thus [psi] explains that the occurrence of homosexuality in modern society is merely the result of denying and limiting a man’s natural sexuality. Without the prohibition, judgment, scorn, and stigmatization of one’s desire to have sex with a person of the same gender, there wouldn’t be any homosexual behavior in the first place. This way every healthy person could enjoy having sex with a person of the opposite gender, which means that no one would be deprived of offspring only because of his sexual orientation. Because it’s in human nature to choose a sex partner freely—one can choose among both genders—bisexuality would be even more widespread in such a society, which wouldn’t have a negative effect on people’s self- acceptance.

The irony is that today homosexuality is condemned the most by people who clearly don’t accept themselves, including many closet homosexuals, who use this to hide their true nature, which they’re ashamed of. Those who are appalled by this shouldn’t ignore the fact that the most regular visitors to gay clubs are exactly the people who most severely condemn homosexuality both privately and publically.

But you may not even discover the homosexual nature of your Emotion because there are many opportunities to overcome this socially suppressed desire. One of these is changing your sexuality mode into “I’m your pleasure,” which, as already described above, can be found in the majority of today’s men. In this mode, desire is directed to the only socially acceptable form of having sex with a partner of the same gender—that is, having sex with oneself. To such a person, a partner only serves as a sexual tool, whereas the psychological sexual satisfaction is established by understanding oneself as a sex object that provides pleasure to others. Such a concept enables a person to satisfy himself; in doing this, he doesn’t notice anything unusual because he’s having sex with a person of the opposite gender, which agrees with the established pattern in society. This type of sexuality in men is often also accompanied by other forms of suppressed homosexual desire such as the desire for anal sex, seeking typically male features in a female partner, and features such as dominance and supremacy, which result in a desire for sadomasochist forms of sexuality. Men’s fantasies involving women in uniforms, hairy women, and even sex with two women can also represent a covert substitute form of homosexual relations. (The latter involve homosexuality in the psychological sense, even though in an acceptable “female” version, in which an observer may not even be aware that in reality he doesn’t take as much pleasure in looking at women’s bodies as in understanding the concept of homosexuality.)

Redirecting suppressed needs

One of the most frequent forms of redirecting one’s suppressed needs is also group sports. Here an individual can engage in an acceptable form of close physical contact with the same sex; of course, without penetration and climax. In this regard, the ritual of taking showers together is also not that insignificant because you can soon discover that no one looks at anything, yet everyone sees everything. (In one case, where the shared changing room and showers were temporarily taken away from a group of athletes under the pretense of extended renovation, a sudden and significant deterioration was observed in their sex life at home.)

Even in notably male sports disciplines, which are being joined by increasingly more women, excitement can be observed at the beginning, but later on men tend to drop out of the activities in large numbers, even though the women show at least as much commitment and discipline as the men. The hunter in the man still wants to go hunting in male rather than female company—this hasn’t changed a bit since the times of primeval society.

Ultimately, one should also not overlook another group of men whose concept of sexuality makes them more likely to enjoy having sex with themselves than with their female partner. These are men who work out in a gym and put a great deal of effort and self-sacrifice into carving out their excessively muscular bodies; they often use dietary supplements and steroids. In reality these men actually admire their own body (just look at how they watch themselves in the mirror in the gym), and even though this is their own body it can’t be ignored they’re admiring a figure of the same sex. This type of man can have sex with a woman, but the concept of his psychological satisfaction is “I’m your pleasure.” These men often have suppressed homosexual desires, but they’re so ashamed of them that they transform them into having sex with their own bodies. But because they can’t reach complete sexual satisfaction this way, they yearn for increasingly more muscles and thus more “masculinity.” This can even lead to addiction and a vicious circle, from which an individual often can’t escape except by hurting himself or becoming impotent (and not only because of the supplements he uses).

I must stress here that all of these descriptions involve complex psychological processes that most individuals aren’t aware of; they would be horrified when confronted with the facts and also firmly convinced that this explanation is wrong. When covert forms of sexual desire and the ways they surface are discussed, many people think these are feelings that individuals are generally aware of, but that they’re also ashamed of them and therefore hide them. But most of these mechanisms remain completely hidden to our consciousness and so the majority of individuals don’t have the feeling that their sexuality is any different or even that there’s something wrong with it. But through detailed study one can see and point to the connections discussed.

The second question is what sense bisexual behavior made in primeval society.

We can find an answer to this question by looking at how women who don’t take part in the hunt and stay in the camp experience sex. For the most part, these women are ruled by Instinct, which means their basic sex-life principle isn’t the same as that of men. In this case, Instinct plays an important role in selecting a partner and engaging in sex, which means that intercourse and Emotion’s pleasure will only take place if Instinct agrees to this in advance. And Instinct isn’t driven by the desire for pleasure, but by the need for safety, family, and trust. Only the man who can break through the armor of Instinct’s cautious nature and build his trust will receive his permission to access Emotion’s sexual pleasure. Because of this, the path to pleasure is much longer in women than in men, where Emotion can instantly decide and follow his sexual desire. However, a woman’s nature also hides another special feature: due to Instinct opening the door to sexuality, these women don’t engage in homosexual relations because Instinct regards other women as competition. This is also the only reason why modern society finds it easier to accept lesbianism than male homosexuality—lesbianism doesn’t pose any threat to Reason because the majority of women don’t even have it in their primal nature.

A smaller group of women in the camp is ruled by Reason. This mind considers sexuality nothing more than a tool he can use to reach his goals. Among these women, the key to sexuality is different and “greater” self-interest is highlighted. In the camp, they’re depicted as women who use their sexual services to trade for goods, which is typical of prostitution in the modern world.

Now we can see that the only purpose of sex isn’t pleasure and that pleasure in fact serves various purposes, primarily strengthening relations, relaxing tension, and forming alliances. Sex also plays this very role among the hunters.

The difference in the way men and women think about sexuality

The difference in the way men and women think about and experience sexuality also conceals the reason why democratic society is led by men. Namely, they don’t feel as much sexual competitiveness as women and find it easy to appoint leaders of the same sex. However, it’s in women’s nature that they don’t vote for sexually attractive women in elections because they’re under Instinct’s influence and primarily sense their competition, which is nothing but fear that they’re going to steal their man. But this doesn’t apply to the he-women because they’re ruled by Emotion. They follow the men’s principle of thinking, which in modern society often leads them to lesbianism. In primeval society, these women would be bisexual, but the same process as described with hunters leads them to conditions in which they’re deprived of sexual pleasure with the opposite sex (and thus offspring). Another thing must be highlighted here: because of its inability to understand primal nature and the related social mechanisms, modern society is unfair to women ruled by Emotion. Their opportunities today really aren’t equal to those of men, and so women fighting for women’s rights are often right in demanding changes in society. The way Filito’s world works is much more favorable to this group and, if you read carefully, you’ll see that in the primitive world they have everything they’re striving for today.

In today’s society one can notice increasingly fewer women with behavior typical of Instinct. Reason commands that cautiousness, reservation, and timidity are undesired qualities. Women are encouraged to think in a typically male way; they’re directed into male professions and sports. The modern woman has become sexually aggressive and self-assertive, which frightens and repels men. On the other hand, men are taught to put their reasonableness ahead of spontaneity and tenderness ahead of decisiveness. In modern society, Reason tries to transform women into men and men into women, which is nothing but an attempt to quench the sexual desire between the opposite sexes—with a single goal: to make Emotion lose his sexual orientation and decrease his power.

Making love

In Filito’s world, there are several forms of sexuality that differ by their psychological concept of experiencing sexuality. However, in the modern world most people are only familiar with one form of sexual sensation, which is further divided according to sex partner and the method of having sex. One of the completely lost sensations in sexuality is making love. Just like true love is lost in the modern world, the act of making love, which isn’t comparable to any other form of sexuality, has also been lost. We no longer use the phrase “making love” correctly because we believe it only refers to sexual intercourse (with perhaps a somewhat more sensual approach).

Most people would say yes to the question of whether they can make love to a person they feel sexually attracted to, thinking only of the sensual approach to sexuality and maybe longer foreplay and more caressing during intercourse. Most people would also say that they would like to make love every day. However, this has nothing to do with making love the way Filito describes it. We can’t make love consciously because it involves an intimate relation between two people who have found true love. Only in this connection can making love actually take place at all. Here most readers will think you understand and know what’s being talked about, that you know these feelings and that you’ve already experienced it once. But today not even one percent of people get to know this form of sexuality in their entire lives. This is a completely different form of experiencing sexuality, a form that’s so deep and incomparable to anything else that the partners lose all desire to practice any other form. While making love, the partners experience sexuality in which they have also combined their two worlds, not only their bodies. This actually also enables them to be faithful to one another because they become completely immune to any external sexual stimuli. Even if such a partner intentionally forced himself into having sex with a different partner, he’d be deeply disappointed with this intercourse, regardless of how attractive and skilled the other partner was. Making love is also characterized by much deeper sexual satisfaction, which makes these couples have sex somewhat less frequently. (But don’t confuse this with lost or insufficient sexual desire!)

Due to misconceptions about sexuality today, many adolescents experience sexuality more as an achievement than pleasure. In this way sexuality makes our relationships more difficult and complex instead of being used to deepen our worlds and bring them closer together. In this regard, it’s of key importance that we be aware of the fact that any form of sexuality that’s accepted and desired by both partners is acceptable to Emotion. Only Emotion who doesn’t accept himself becomes sexually aggressive, and this is unacceptable to society. Therefore we also reject this form of sexual behavior and individuals can even be exiled from society because of this. Emotion who accepts himself seeks and wants to find relations where the desire is mutual and not only one-sided. At first glance this seems to contradict his desire for the unattainable, but one should know that this unattainableness only further increases his desire; but he always only uses this to present his own world. And he seeks admirers for this, not forced visitors.

We don’t have direct influence on our wishes and desires, and so we mustn’t be ashamed of them or even deny them, regardless of what they are. The same also applies to others and therefore we also mustn’t laugh at or judge others’ wishes. However, we must reject and prevent any form of forcing desire onto another who doesn’t feel and want the same.

It’s not shameful or disrespectful to show one’s desire to another. Every Emotion likes to be desired and he takes every respectful display of desire as a compliment. At the same time, if someone refuses to have sex with us, we mustn’t take this as a problem because this doesn’t mean that the other person doesn’t respect us or thinks our world is worth less. Whoever accepts himself understands that some worlds are more compatible than others. We don’t have direct control of our wishes and desires, and so rejections also aren’t a matter of our will; they only reflect respect for own world. A person who accepts himself can also understand and accept rejection without a problem, and feels no disappointment or anger. Emotion’s desire also depends on his current mood and so his rejection can also be only temporary.

Emotion never shows his sexual desire with words, and for him sexual intercourse begins considerably before the actual act.

The understanding of a man’s sexual nature as presented in the story of Filito is important for understanding society, interpersonal relations, and one’s own acceptance. Perhaps understanding this part of the book will change the way many people look at relations, society, and life.

Those who want to get to know Emotion’s sexual nature must remove all fears, prohibitions, plans, and expectations from their own sexual worlds. However, this doesn’t mean their sex lives must become reckless and irresponsible. Therefore, you mustn’t exclude Instinct and Reason in choosing your sex partner and using prophylactics. In addition, you also have to take into account that it’s in the nature of an individual who accepts himself and also in line with the three laws of life that you have to respect your world and the worlds of others equally. This means that every act of sexual intercourse must be desired and harmonized in both worlds.

Whoever accepts and respects Emotion’s sexual nature will be rewarded with limitless pleasures and the beauty of life.